Helping her find PEACE on the other side of a blind spot

My last thing I was going to ask you, Peter, can you just break me before you go? >> [laughter] >> What's one area that you're struggling with? I was told by another expert like I have an unworthiness wound. Okay. >> Possibly. I think that like I've been a very high achiever my whole life and I

truly don't think that I would have not received the love from my parents if I didn't achieve. But >> a component. I think not of love but just like the expectation, maybe. I think I naturally was very talented kid. I just was good at a lot of things. >> Yeah. And that made my parents very

happy. Yeah. >> And somewhere along the line like mixed up I'm getting love and attention >> Yeah. and I'm achieving and so that must be the reason I'm getting love and attention >> when maybe it really wasn't. I would have been like loved anyways. Yeah. >> And so now I think I'm at this place in

my life where it is a struggle for me to think like why someone would like I don't know want to be around me like let if I didn't have all my achievements. >> That's okay. That's beautiful. >> Yeah. Yeah. I can see the pattern in the fact that it moves you to a little bit

of water behind the eyes, you know, it's really beautiful. So thank you for sharing that. What's it like to live inside of that space? Well, it's exhausting. >> It's exhausting, right? Yeah. It's a lot of pressure. Yeah. Yeah. Like how does that manifest in your day-to-day? Well, I think I've gotten a lot better in the past like 15

18 months of trying to like do less and not judge myself as much. >> Yeah. But I think it's just my identity, especially in my family. Like I am the the perfect family member who doesn't bring the family problems. >> Yeah. Yeah. And like I'm sick of that. >> So let's look at language and cuz words