Почему мы боимся быть настоящими — и как зависимость от чужого мнения лишает нас собственной жизни

In order for my neighbors to feel good with me, I must feel good myself , bring myself back to normal, bring myself to some kind of stable state, a stable equilibrium will be filled. This is my main responsibility in life. No one but me will truly understand my interests, delve into my interests and

protect them. The answer may sound unexpected. Allow yourself this lack of restraint and rudeness. forgive yourself for this intemperance and rudeness, treat your rudeness with compassion [music] for yourself. In order to stop traumatizing others, you need to start by stopping traumatizing yourself, [music] stop scolding yourself for these breakdowns. This does not mean approving of them. No,

that's wrong. You and I are living our only [music] life, our only precious, unique life, and we have every right and every reason to live it truly. Friends, look what a strange thing. You look at a person like this, a joker, a verbose, talkative merry fellow. You think: “Look how attractive he is, what a well-deserved

success he enjoys in the company.” Then you look at another person who is weighty, laconic, and laconic, and you think: “How interesting and attractive he is, how he has such well-deserved authority among people.” Why? Why are such completely different characters, such different types, so attractive? How can this be? Ah, it could be very simple.

A person is attractive to the extent that his behavior, his external, so to speak, imprint on the external environment corresponds to him, his structure, his nature, his organism. The more a person corresponds to himself in his manifestations, the more natural and relaxed he is in them, the more he is liked. This is a