Why You Keep Getting Hurt in Relationships | Adler's "Understanding Human Nature" Explained

have you ever noticed that we may have read many books on self growth yet still find ourselves repeatedly hurt in relationships we know we should communicate empathize and set boundaries but when real life hits we still can't help but control avoid compare please others or suddenly blow up maybe the problem isn't that we're not trying hard enough

maybe it's that we haven't truly understood what is hidden behind human behavior hello everyone I'm Manya welcome to Life Wisdom today I'd like to talk with you about a classic work in psychology Alfred Adler's Understanding Human Nature this book was first published in 1927 and was based on a series of lectures Adler gave to the general public

at the People's Institute in Vienna it is not a book written only for psychologists it is written for anyone who wants to better understand themselves understand others and understand relationships Adler had a very important idea much of human suffering comes not only from events themselves but from how we understand ourselves how we understand others

and the behavioral patterns we develop within relationships why do some people always want to control why do some people habitually please others why do some people avoid conflict the moment it appears why do we long for intimacy yet keep pushing relationships away the book Understanding Human Nature is like a lamp it helps us see the goals behind behavior

the longing behind inferiority the needs behind emotions and the wounds in relationships that are not easy to put into words in today's episode I'll take you through Adler's understanding Human Nature from 7 perspectives and we'll explore how we can slowly move out of relationship patterns that repeatedly hurt us and return to a life that is more mature