Truth About What You Want

I make a distinction between pain and suffering pain is inevitable with sentient beings you're going to stub your toe you're going to get tooth AE and get stomach ache but suffering I want you to consider is optional once we have new found awareness most people I want you to consider are always trying

to get away from something so even the things that we want and of course we've got beautiful examples of what we want I want you to consider wanting is a future-based proposition right if we want for something what we're actually saying is we don't have it and usually the wanting is something outside of us

it's exogenous like what are some other the things that anyone wants so you're happy to share again you can be as vulnerable as you want Rel how long have you not had a great relationship with your daughters um three years three years okay this is significant and their teens 20s how old are they 19 20 okay

great um and so currently having the absence of a better relationship with your daughters how does that leave you feeling s yes I got it okay I'm sorry to hear that there dad died like two years ago okay I'm sorry to hear that and I feel guilty about it so why is it that you're

associating the passing of your partner with guilt she died of alcoholism okay got it the last five years were really really tough but we were together got it and then finally got so bad I'm like you got to yeah and when and when they left I you and my soul that he wasn't going to make it

okay he didn't make it okay got it and so there's belts that I hav't and so now how are you associating that with your daughters because they're hurt right for the passing of their dad and do you feel they're also blaming you got it and just we get it it's very clear but give us as best as you're