Apego Evitativo: Por Que Eles Querem Sua Amizade Após o Término?

You just went through a draining and painful breakup. The atmosphere is still tense. You try to figure out where things went wrong and suddenly your ex, who usually has an avoidant personality, sends that classic message in a calm and casual tone. Look, we don't [musically] work well as a couple, but I like

you a lot and I don't want to lose you. Is it because of music that we can't continue being friends? For those who receive this offer, the feeling is one of pure bewilderment. After all, during the courtship, this same person did everything to create distance, complained about demands, shut themselves off from the

relationship, and seemed suffocated by it. Why would someone who fought so hard to preserve their space and avoid romantic commitment insist on keeping their ex-partner close as a friend? What is the real psychological logic behind this need to keep the connection alive, but in a different format? In this video, [music] we're going to do a

detailed autopsy of the post-breakup avoidant mind . [music] The goal here is to understand what goes on in the mind of a person with avoidant attachment, both disdainful and fearful avoidance, when they decide to propose a friendship right after the end of a relationship. [music] Before analyzing the reasons for this proposal in depth

, it is necessary to understand that the avoidant personality type does not react identically in all situations. Not everyone who's avoidant will want to be friends [with the music] when the relationship ends. There is a group of avoidant individuals who, when faced with a breakup, especially if the end was marked by intense arguments, demands, and a