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You Don’t Have To Perform To Be Loved

Peter Crone · 1,877 words · 9 min read · EN-ORIG

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Where did I feel that before? Where can I then sort of recall events from my childhood where that was a consistent theme in my life? Right? So, when somebody's in an relationship as mature adults and the husband raises his voice and the woman's like, I just I've got anxiety and now I'm taking some sort of

pills and it's been going on for a while, but really, if I were to look at that, what are what are you saying? Well, I just I don't know. I just don't feel safe around him. Okay. So, but yet you married the person or you moved in with them so that you saw something. But

where else did you not feel safe? Well, I mean, as a kid, I always didn't feel safe. My dad would get drunk and raise his voice. I saw him hit my mom. You know, now you can start to see that's been there for 30, 40 years. >> It just hasn't been reconciled where

you've realized, oh, I'm the one creating the world of not safe. >> Not to in any way dismiss the fact that maybe the husband is a little bit abusive or raises his voice. It's not fun, >> but I'm not not safe. >> That's the way I'm interpreting. And if I'm living in that energetic signature

of thinking I'm not safe, cuz that's what I become accustomed to, I'm going to attract circumstances and people to continue that dialogue. So, it's justified and that's where we get to be, right? The self-fulfilling prophecy. If who I am is that I'm not special, I'm not loved, I'm not safe, I'm not going to be okay, then just

through the laws of manifestation, you curate events to cons consistently reinforce that perspective. So basically, we are the ones generating, you know, when people say I want to manifest, I'm like, no, that's all you're doing is like what you're however where you're manifesting from is your blind spots. It's the subconscious programming that you got conditioned

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through the first 7 to 15 years of your life and now you're a 45year-old 50. Why? Why can't you make more money? Why can't you get rid of this sickness? Why can't you find love? Well, because you're still living within the same energetic parameters that became your home emotionally and psychologically that you were in as a child. And you

have to therefore attract the same circumstances because ultimately the primordial imperative of the ego is to be right. See, I told you that was too good to be true. When we get a glimpse of a possibility that actually resonates with the true heart and soul of who we are, but it will get squashed because the ego

wants to be right about, "No, I can't do that." Whatever it is like, wait, a man really loves me and really adors me and I can feel really safe. No, that's super uncomfortable. What I do know is how to be abused. It's crazy, isn't it? >> Oh my god, Peter. Holy [ __ ]

You really are one of the greats. It's unbelievable. It's just >> Yeah. Thank you. >> It's hard to >> It It's hard. >> It is >> to accept it and to own it. >> Yeah. But that's why I said earlier, you're either a victim or you're 100% responsible. It's just most people don't

want to be the latter because with that there comes immense power. But that's the only access to freedom. And responsibility in a way that's got nothing to do with fault or blame because they're so slippery. When people think of the word responsibility, they hear the words that most kids hear, which is you're wrong, you're bad, it's

your fault. And there's a sense of guilt and shame. And that tends to be the foundation. Some of the predominant pillars of an ego is built in guilt and shame, you know, cuz which kid doesn't hit? Don't do that. You did that wrong. You're bad. Why didn't you get an A? Like, why did you only get three out of

five bats at baseball? Why did you not make the team? when you know and it's sad but the way that children hear that is that I'm insufficient and that's when children learn to abandon themselves and that's the primordial wound that we all start with. There's this sort of unwritten agreement between kids and

parents which is I'll be who I think and that's responsibility. They don't see it that way. They really think as a kid I'll be who I you want me to be. But it's no it's who the child thinks the parents want them to be. and we abandon ourselves at that moment very young and

that's the start of the personality and the identity. Um, and so to come back to that and to sort of, you know, repair that illusory disconnection. You never really disconnect with your true essence or your true soul, but to start to, you know, recognize, wow, at some point I decided that being me wasn't enough.

And I don't know any human being who didn't at some point make that agreement with themselves. >> Yeah. >> So sad. >> It is, isn't it? Yeah. And then people do everything they can to cope and strategize. And for a woman, it's in the realm of sex and beauty and like, you know, hair and boobs and makeup and

clothes, you know, for a guy it's performance and money and speed and strength and cars, you know, they're stereotypes, but you can just see how insidious it is and it's so normalized that we think it's just human, but it's exhausting and obviously moving, right? You know, and you can see it like what

what touches you there. Is it for yourself, for your kids, for friends? Like >> I think just like thinking about like an innocent child. >> Yeah. >> Growing up thinking that is >> that being them isn't enough. >> I mean I felt that way. So >> yeah. Yeah. And I would assert that it's

a few years of the accumulation of that feeling that got triggered when you're on vacation. >> Yeah. >> It's like you just that that was the one moment where the straw that broke the c the camel's back of I've just had enough of being told that I'm not enough. >> Yes. And that's why I said it was a gift

because you were the one carrying the the sort of as yet to to sort of explode, you know, time bomb. >> Yes. >> And for that reason, you know, you can step into and there's no surprise when you were saying at the beginning, you know, like feeling like you're just done, you know, with the And that to me

is a little bit of a knee-jerk reaction. Okay, I'm done with the toxicity of other people, you know, it's a little bit sort of >> too fresh. >> Totally. And I feel that and and it comes from >> hate and anger. >> Yes. And >> yeah, >> I mean I will say a huge part of

my practice is in the the sending love and really >> truly finding >> Mhm. >> just like this seed of empathy and compassion for like I think it really hits home when you say to strip away I'm going to cry again. >> Okay. Okay. It's beautiful. It's okay. I wish I had a tissue to give

you, but >> I just Oh god. >> It's okay. This is good. This is Don't Don't resist it. I know this is your show, but this is beautiful. Like there's something here for you to really let go of. >> Yeah. >> To strip away mom and dad. >> Yeah. >> And to just

>> Yeah. >> Look at the human underneath it. >> Yeah. This totally inappropriate.

It's okay.

The viewers got to see my ass. >> I love that. This is like my, you know, I thought about this when Ava and I were prepping these cards and I I was like, you know, >> plus coming back and like after the summer of not sitting with anyone. I'm like, this is freedom. Like, I don't

[ __ ] need the cards. >> Follow your intuition because >> just as you said, you really had no idea, but >> neither did I. No. >> And I just like the truth. >> Yeah. to come out and I didn't want to talk about any of this with you. >> No. >> At all. This was the last thing that I

wanted to talk about because it's so exposing. >> Yeah. But for that reason, it's so liberating. >> Yeah. >> And I know it seems counterintuitive, but like this is one of the most beautiful versions of you I've ever seen. like as pristinely as you're always put together and beautiful and you take such

immaculate care of yourself and the way you dress and you're such a beautiful woman, but this to me is like this is where the real treasure lies, >> right? Cuz this is as about as authentic as it gets. >> Yeah. >> And I guarantee there's not a listener right now who either isn't crying with

you or loving you unconditionally. And I hope for themselves having maybe a little bit of release and some healing simultaneously. >> Yes. That's what you do for people. >> Yeah. And turn them into a complete [ __ ] mess. >> You're welcome. >> It's in the >> It's in the mess that you

>> I think are able to really start >> Mhm. >> being yourself. >> Yeah. Yeah. Because if you think about it, like it's, you know, we're all designed unfortunately through the means of trying to protect to want to be loved and accepted. It's it's innocent. It's at one level, you know, adorable because

we just hope that other people love and accept us. But in that whole process, we deny the fact that what's really going on is that we don't fundamentally love and accept ourselves, you know? And that's why you could have a room filled of people in like tuxedos and beautiful ball gowns wearing Cartiier and fancy

[ __ ] you know, and you throw a four-year-old in the mix and running around who's just spilling [ __ ] and they got [ __ ] smoothie up their face and they're calling people fat and you know that's that's who you want to be, right? You know, so that's why I always say, you know,

what interests me is the truth. I think that's why you've attracted Lauren into your life because she is >> a truth teller. >> She You could say >> she's next. No, she's a truth teller. >> Yeah, >> she tells the truth. >> Yeah, at times >> times she's got the 15 shots of tequila

in there and it's pure [ __ ] reaction. >> Listen, it's the process. Here.