Why Attachment Theory Is So Important-Adam Lane Smith

Dating apps are a network of people who don't have anyone in their life that can connect them to anyone they know. So they are desperate and alone and afraid and then they have attach so they have attachment issues. Then they go on the app and they try to market themsel like a product on Amazon for impulse buys. So

they misuse the app and they're already afraid and desperate in the first place. So it's a hunting ground for people with attachment issues or personality disorders to find somebody to give them the chemicals they're looking for.

Adam Lane Smith, you are a psych a relationship coach. >> I am the attachment specialist. >> You're so attachment styles is your kind of specialty. >> Attachment science is everything I do. >> And you are licensed? >> I was licensed as a measure and family therapist for years. I gave up my license specifically so that I could

coach. >> Is that right? >> Yeah. I had to unfortunately. And uh tell us about attachment styles. I I think this is one of the most interesting parts of romantic relationships and it's not really delved into that much. >> No, it's not unfortunately. Uh attachment theory was developed back in the 1950s by John Bulby. Attachment

theory really is just the way that we as humans connect to each other to give and receive love. It's to get our needs met. It's to feel safe. It's everything that we do between us. And we can either have secure attachment where we learn that people will work with us. They will take

care of our needs. They will they will share with us. They'll be honest with us and there are second chances or we learn that people will not do that. We learn that we are not safe and so we have to fight for safety. Either we have to pull back and stay away from other people and