Feel Them Pulling Away? Here's The Only Response That Wins

There is one thing most people universally fear in dating [music] and that is rejection. But is there something that feels even worse? If you do a quick search on YouTube, you will find hundreds of videos on the subject [music] of people pulling away. The view counts on my videos alone on this topic

are in the millions. Why [music] is this such a surged phenomenon? Well, for one thing, today more than ever, it is easy for people to pull [music] away. We can slowly disconnect and disengage without ever explaining ourselves. And we know that 50% of the time, if not more, we are dealing with someone who is too

afraid to show they care in a culture where no one seems to care [music] and that they won't ever actually say anything about it. There's a standard recipe for pulling away. We all [music] know it. We've felt it. We may have even done it. You start by not making plans for the next time you're going to see

someone. Then [music] start making the time in between your texts a little bit longer with each text. Third, perform linguistic extraction whereby you decrease the word count in each message [music] you send. Mix and repeat until the person on the other side no longer has anything to latch on to to continue the conversation anymore. And if you

want to be extra [music] fancy, pepper your communication with a few confusing signals by viewing their stories and occasionally liking their posts. The reason we obsess over what to do when someone pulls away is because of the complete uncertainty about what it means and what we should do. And it is that uncertainty that makes it in some ways

harder than a straightup rejection. If you are anxiously inclined, then you start to notice if someone is taking longer to respond. You may not know why they're taking longer to respond, but you notice and you don't know if they're actually pulling away or if you're overthinking it. Or maybe you send them a text and you're used to a certain kind