What Envious People Do When You Start Growing | Carl Jung

There is a strange moment that happens when you begin to outgrow your old life. Nothing dramatic happens. Nobody sits you down and says, "I don't like who you're becoming." There is no announcement, no argument, no obvious betrayal. Instead, >> [music] >> something becomes slightly different. The person who used to ask about your

plans stops asking. The friend who once celebrated your small victories becomes strangely quiet when something good happens. Someone who used to encourage you suddenly starts making jokes about the very qualities that are helping you change. Your confidence becomes arrogance. Your discipline becomes obsession. Your boundaries become selfishness. Your ambition becomes pride. And perhaps the strangest part

>> [music] >> is that you haven't done anything to them. You've simply started becoming someone you weren't before. And this is where envy becomes difficult to recognize because envy doesn't always announce itself as hatred. Sometimes it sounds like concern. Sometimes it looks like a joke. Sometimes it looks like indifference. And sometimes >> [music]

>> it sounds like someone reminding you to stay humble precisely when you're finally learning to believe in yourself. Carl Jung understood something important about human nature. We don't only react to what other people have. >> [music] >> We react to what their existence awakens inside us. And when you start growing, you may

accidentally awaken something in someone else. A dream they abandoned. A confidence they never developed. A life they kept postponing. [music] Or a painful question they have spent years avoiding. What if I could have become more, too? You can often see the first change [music] when you share good news. Maybe you got the promotion. Maybe your