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welcome everyone this is another episode we're about to kill it once again top it in every possible way of the real kings of pick up number one resource on the planet to help both men and women to thrive at all levels with love sex oh man success spirituality you name it this is the original podcast in the

longest-lasting of its type in the industry since 2004 I'm Vince Hollywood Kelvin also known as Aphrodite sprints here with my spiritual brother the diamond mind greatest seducer of all time a ratchet up arm of the [ __ ] D bizarre so we got so much of the plate this mom brother is gonna be phenomenal

was great speaking to you belong here all right phenomenal so before we take questions I'm gonna ask you with the classic question my brother how are you doing today here we go brother I am let's put it like this I'm floating in empty space it's dark all around me and I look around I see all

kinds of universes and galaxies each one that I enter would be a person or a group of people now each person themselves represents a planet with their own orbit their own climate everything that we think of a planet is a person one time in my life I met a man who was very powerful in fact I met him

twice both like this he was a little bit little little Italian guy and he actually if you go to Reno the casinos the chandeliers and all the casinos were put together by him he was a multi-millionaire from Ted a billionaire he said Wow one time like this he said to me one time like that so they were

Steve actually he said you know every person is a planet and you just need to know that when I die I'm gonna be a planet too I never forgot that the apartments and in in recent times I've been able to I don't know if he meant what I'm perceiving now but that's the world I live in I live in

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a world of space and and creation and vast abundance and I'm real excited to be here with c'mon you wow so many phenomenal things you know I wouldn't know where to begin my brother I want to generate some momentum with the questions because I feel sharper than ever despite the fact that I've been up

since 6:00 a.m. and covered so much ground I'm thrilled we are doing an advanced for women only that will be covered in the San Francisco Chronicle's coming up so I'm very excited about that this is a whole new level so I really really really can't wait so I think gentlemen we are ready to take your

questions simple say your name the city you calling from and what you would like help with so we would like to begin are we going for the long silence by the way for anyone who's new this is happening every Monday so make it a must put in your calendars in the meantime what

questions would you have and it's a reminder that I give every Monday since 2004 since you first started seize every opportunity to voice yourself you have been conditioned to exercise the full force form of politeness where you let somebody else go first yeah let the other guy or girl get laid before you

know at a social level be a social leader you also been conditioned to dodge your questions or to think you have no question or to passively listen production pick up social arts are not the place where you do that so it's always a little effort that's one thing you know brother that's one thing

that helped me a lot initially I would seize all the minimal opportunities to put myself up from in the spotlight just a little bit simple thing as when it would make sense not to pass too close to the terrace I would pass a little closer it was uncomfortable but it was the right thing

to condition myself in an elevator I wouldn't wait for somebody to say hey what floor are you going take the lead it doesn't seem much many would say you know that he wasn't a real pickup generates momentum it conditions a habit that would be ready for you when real pickup is happening so use the Monday

call also for that to be the social leader to step up

even since Morgan can you hear me yes so what would be your question our opacity to rubbish to keep the backend for dynamic so how can we help you tell you I'm actually I'm from Miami I just moved here six months ago um add a quick question about are you guys gonna host a live event

coming up soon you said you were in Hawaii uh Miami you're in Miami now so yes we are hosting live events all the time we have more coming up this month they are usually Hollywood or San Jose and many travel resistance is well worth it or we also stream them livestream and we come different so work matters we

secure a HD recording that you'll get within 48 hours DVD downloads of the events so you either are welcome to travel the distance or be on the live stream and if you miss part of it or even if you watch the whole thing as it is being streamed right after you get the recordings and

you get to watch them again and again pause as you please so maybe if you want to know about the next four events coming up best would be to message me or send me a quick email Vince at seduction coaching calm so what I'm sure that's all right so that's one more yeah so um

last week was Miami Music Week um it's one of the biggest weeks of Miami um so I went to a bunch of ents watch pool parties and I was practicing um my friends always make fun of me because they say I'm not afraid to open the sound the opening machine so when I um

it was definitely a different vibe um lots of girls lots of actually my friends are saying our Instagram models there and um I can get into conversation and then things go pretty well but one thing I'm trying to go back through is I'm trying to go back mystery methods to kind of work on

something I think I need to work on is qualifying the girl more in conversation do you guys have any advice for that I pass you to Russian yes when you say I'm trying to go back to the mystery method that's very general like what do you mean I'm just trying to basically I'm

trying to critique my pickup right now and I'm reading to take AB artists again by just to kind of go through the format so what's the question that cuz that's right what's the question mmm so um well I've been well go and I'll throw dhv spikes and um in the conversation I'll neg more

and then I feel like at a point I just need to qualify the girl more to make her kind of I guess chase me a little more so I was warned if you guys had any time it's rude or any advice on how to is disqualify more let me explain something to you I did a one-on-one this

weekend the guy came and I told him before you come in to beat the mechina so he did he was a model he is a model jeopardize the model very good-looking guys six-pack pop like you know what you would imagine light-skinned black man models will applies right and he came and he said y'all have a bunch of

questions I said okay let's go and then he said to me something similar to what she said and I said so what's the DHB can you explain to me because you just said dhv spikes right and he couldn't explain it so I said how do you qualify couldn't explain it and so he had all

these words that he didn't even understand right it's pitch one thing to say cuz here's what I heard you say I heard you say I do bhp spikes and then I neg and I feel like I need to qualify her those are so technical so before I fully answer and I'm not going to take

too long cause it's too much this let me just ask you a specific question can you demonstrate to me right now an example of a DHD spike how does that sound give me one oh sure sure um usually I'll talk about my move I recently just moved to Miami so if I want to kind of bring a

little more emotion into it and I want to do a DHD spike I'll say hey Risa okay something tell me what you do um I'm the girl so Reese listen is a company I worked for actually ended up being bought out and they actually have to headquarters to Miami and they said they really wanted I

always introduce myself as Captain Morgan so they want to Captain Morgan really to come out to Miami it was actually really hard because I family and friends I'm actually a lion dancer so I used to go out lying distant four nights a week with this big group and we always had tons of fun and when it came

time it was hard to leave that that family but my friends like you have to go out there you had to follow your dreams you have to have to give it a try so okay stop stop right there stop right there stop right there me who told you that who gave you that advice in the

story you said who told you that in the story my friends you said like much okay boom a demonstration of a lower value you had it you know it was okay alright there you are in congruence right let me tell you something my friends don't need to give me advice about following my dream

so here's what happened I was working in this big huge [ __ ] company and I don't you know here's I believe as a man you have to make money now I don't know as a female with a you you like that or not but let me give you some advice as a

friend okay we're friends you and I are friends yes good nice to meet you AED arrives of our [ __ ] diva so I could have any woman in here you point them out I'll get them in fact we'll play a game later I'll find you and make you find me a mate okay

stalking love me of my cousin anyway I'm talking fast because my mind is fast but that's why I'm drinking and smoking so I could slow the [ __ ] down Norma trip listen to this [ __ ] so I work at this company and they pay me a [ __ ] shitload of money Captain Morgan that's

me right they move they get bought out long story short Miami City Oh [ __ ] lied what are the [ __ ] my knees I don't know fun this and that and I don't want to come to have a good [ __ ] life believe me right but at the same time I

love adventure you love adventure do you like change I know you don't like change without adventure probably you adventures I'll decide that later now I move you along so each or when I'm moving here you know what my friends are saying to me you're secure you're safe you have all this money you know

everybody I know what I said I'm a [ __ ] you if you don't want me to expand and then and then don't give me advice okay pause so I told your story up to this point and then switched what you said to your friends are telling you or people were telling you or your girlfriend was

telling you and I just saw their baby just come over there okay we're going to be living in a [ __ ] loft right we're going to be partying all night with watch this with the most beautiful women but this is life right so the cause okay now this should be enough for you to see and absolutely

by the way you did well okay I was surprised so good job but this is how I would tighten it and let's end this now here so that we could move to the next question or other sense doesn't say about it otherwise which is not fair about it do you get what I'm saying

there was just a little bit tighter application of what you did and I stopped you when you're about to dlv demonstrate value your friends don't give you advice about following your dreams why would that you're the tribal leader you could say my friend I could say my friend DK he was on CNN he was on

Steve I'm sure you've seen him I mean he he's the [ __ ] man he's like a rock star anyways BK he's the guy he he was the guy telling you to Arash you're the [ __ ] guy that could take any risk man I've worked with Tony Robbins this is that and use you embody all that

philosophy and you know that's why he's my friend you have to meet him by the way [ __ ] rock star but it'd be cool when you meet them okay boom end of story you see that's how you talk but not not just facts I'm speaking faster to the time it's done like this it's a little

bit slower so I was in Miami all right and it depends and then I can pick it up where I get excited and your communication has to be able to do this - there's - you will even believe this - can you believe that [ __ ] - clam and you're like a you're like aning story

nobody wants to hear someone talking to solo sounds just like this okay end of it all right oh my irrelevant question on my side which island in Hawaii oh sorry it's Miami Miami Florida no but before you said you just relocated so prior or other where I was in Virginia in Virginia okay okay so I I

don't know where I picked up Hawaii but Chiquita okay so um I want you to think of moments when you trying to qualify yourself in any conversation or communication when this - there's always one that's a little more affirm that and the other one that's kind of trying to prove themselves okay I'm sure you've

experienced that dynamic so personally my qualification starts from the get-go with the following understanding yeah the dhv the goal is to add value but not at a level of me having to prove myself I come from the following frame and frames are the foundation that's what comes first okay because you could do

the right thing from the wrong frame you could plan the wrong seed the right seed at the wrong place so I come in knowing that most people are [ __ ] [ __ ] when they communicate why because they take communication for granted and they never go beyond the basics and since they can get by and communicate every

day the words they use are most of the time sufficient to order food to talk with someone they take it for granted so it's a problem on their part and I know that it's not going to go very far if I depend on them because they're not good storytellers there are probably not living very

exciting lives in my own standard so I come in and I generate automatically the dynamic of the other person having to qualify themselves guys in my own mind my frame is like okay her conversation skills probably suck other than order pile of stuff autopilot like why you saying that and so on so it's gonna go

nowhere if I depend on her so I'm going to toss loads of value to add not prove myself but adding the conversation I'm going to open all those doors and that frame that dynamic causes right away the other person to feel like they may not be enough you know so then when you tell your story the goal is to

open as many doors as possible past cities toss this things you've done not to prove yourself and not to impress still residues of that for most guys even if the profession with any method and as you do that you also have to make sure that the next level for you would be three to one tell me your story see

when I was at project Hollywood one of the guys did a living with us he paid a lot of money to be there and live with us was a comedian from Australia and I was always busy with girls so one night I'm finally getting to talk with him with smoking a cigarette outside the guy

I go what do you and he goes I'm a comedian go great make me laugh and it goes well usually what I do a good no not usually what you do I'm here right now you can make me laugh right now you can make an audience laugh you can make you can make girls laugh okay so I would

recommend you practice not so much oh here's a girl let me toss my PhD but you live it more at any given time that you could entice any crowd they'd be like wow who is that guy automatically people will want to qualify and then comes the point where as you raise the bar so the idea is to

set a standard that's high you know that stretch and there's a lot of [ __ ] value in the conversation but by value I mean any any good conversationalist could branch off could be like asking you questions it's on its rich cap and then you toss it back at her which will generate almost like a void where she

goes well I I don't know it that's the moment where she has to qualify and before the goal is to make her dream and give her little hints of okay with it disguise [ __ ] incredible now you ask you see you're going back to mystery method I think that yeah if I were Union on shoes I

would go forward into the breakthrough the breakthroughs that has taken place those those past couple Mountain years things like the vortex care a celebrity game and and all that new stuff yeah so anything that was written some time ago has great value but I think we're at a whole new level right now where we

achieve a lot more with a lot less effort and one thing people are suckers we've all been in a classroom where they were the teachers with whom we could do whatever the [ __ ] we wanted but there's also those that even if we didn't like them we would respect them so we've been

conditioned that certain modes of delivery command a certain behavior and wherever you see a man was more achieved okay that's more exposed they tend to be a more impactful when they talk so constantly make headways with that you know so because remember the hierarchy is this the words are what come last what comes before that is the tone of

your voice what comes before that is your body language and what comes even be before that is the energy the vibe you radiate so if you want people to qualify you have to make it clear from the start that with a loving heart of a spiritual frame of yes there's that place where we all want but in my own

life as far as I'm concerned your grain of [ __ ] sand until you show me that you're a diamond so get that battle edge from the start yeah and where is that edge found usually last thing I say in any guy that's a bad [ __ ] that's happening that's ed sure you reproduce those responses and

they want to qualify from the start because you enter with that edge and guys be very careful because what I observe a lot from those who are a little school you know they they riddle bit and so on is polluted pickup polluted because not in dramatic ways where the guy is trying to impress the girl with flowers or

serenade and a big meal and constantly saying oh please accept me but in certain ways that are not there that are not yet that who are you prove yourself to me at the level of your own attitude and you know that deep down inside you don't just translate it through a story so continue that your story and all it

was it was very interesting always do it for like a real time yeah real time would mean don't explain to somebody else what you would do with your wings with your buddies and so on toss those stories and yes sometimes ok you talking to a girl's we would never wanna be with her because she started or it's a

[ __ ] guy of course not nevertheless impact impact impact I'm sorry brother I was alone but I'm ready for the we're ready for the next question

hey guys Brian Marsh look you guys hear me yes Brian ah good to have y'all what's up guys hey I was just uh just just tune in here a second ago and I was listening to him talk about VH TVs and also qualifying and when I noticed when I was out with Ross he did a really good

job with me as far as d.h being me in my presence with with other people he would simply say this is Brian Marshall he's the owner of Las Vegas nightclubs he's a bad [ __ ] and blah blah blah you know I'm saying he would really lift me up and then he would deliver it carry on through his

conversation right there it's almost like putting me on a song I really like high status to where people automatically give me respect and I think that's kind of like what he's trying to do there with the whole Miami move and with the job I think he possibly could have condensed it down a

little bit more subtle more quicker does that make sense Arashi they're cool yeah that makes yeah well I mean I don't know that wasn't I didn't get a question that what's up guys what's up everyone I'm good let me correct terminology here it's so I didn't dhv you I didn't eh be fine

what I did is called a accomplishment intro so when you introduce your your your partner your your friend in in set it's wise to do an accomplishment intro what's this guy's accomplishment why am i hanging out with this guy right right hey this is my brother he's from LA this is from Texas Brian Marshall

you've heard of Las Vegas right clubs I'm sure it is I said he goes I said this is a guy well he's the owner of effective nightclubs not from a are bad [ __ ] were kicking it but you guys doing book that's called this is what this guy's a comp it's an

accomplishment intro now ADHD is a demonstration of a higher value now this is one of the most confusing concepts that you don't get and and I tell you what until I have a one-on-one conversation with mystery about this and clear it up what he meant I've had to come up with my own understanding of it

and the reason why I will I will take I'm standing over anything I said I talked to them is that the definition I use is workable so it could possibly be and when I speak with a definition and if it doesn't match mine I would have to say listen here's how I've applied it and there is a possibly

in that moment that word will change because it's happened before okay and that's why I don't want to get into it because I think it's a I think if it's decoded the way I did it which is if a man can demonstrate higher value if you guys can get these three words away I get it it's like the business

there's a spell there's a magic in this if you remonstrate higher value the whole not just a woman the whole environment must shift around you but that you would have to define value the way I define it in context of what we do right so what I did was right but it's called a pompous miniature and if you

want to learn game you want picking to pick up so the real team to pick up so what you need to do is whenever you're out with your buddies and friends they're never losers are never beta why would you want to hang out what would Allah I think I would do sheep right so

even if I know nothing about my friend I just look at him and I go this is Joe Schmo this is one bad [ __ ] that you would want to know trust me everyone just some dumb [ __ ] like that okay you know I introduced Tigran um to you the whole white guy is my student

he's uh he almost looks and sounds gay but he had a very beautiful girlfriend he just broke up with she was one of the most beautiful girls I've seen straight up and he went out with me Saturday and by the end of the night he had women just hanging about his nuts here was my

intro right look at me and I am guys and then he would walk up I said oh this is my rich white friend Tigran that's it my rich white friends here and then and they're all like this oh yeah he's rich trust me that's it okay no I wish enjoy your Frenchy like

this here's Jenny my big boob big titted skinny girlfriend nice to introduce yourself that's basically what I said here's my white rich fat oh he's rich trust me that's enough for the night you understand Chanel wanted accomplishing an intro right there itself absolutely absolutely also if it's almost like a dhv though to in itself

and it works on its own wouldn't you say it can't be it can't be but I think we should keep that conversation for another moment yeah I will just keep going back and forth - okay okay that's it presentation whining that out thank you all or one because no one on the planet

gives an accomplishment intro like a rush does you know right and at the first few time that it is to me I was like oh [ __ ] I need to find a route I need to reciprocate there so weekend away is a dhv not to get caught in the terminology and brother rush I really mean this like

your accomplishment intros are are surreal and I find them from my own unique angle to observe but absolutely agree because guys be with me for a second even more we've all been in the situation where you starting to build more proficient with pick up and you have an uninformed buddy with you and

what do they often do they often do the opposite they lower your value which automatically lowers theirs okay you take two Schmucks that are unaware put them in nightclub and they both in the presence of one woman rapidly wanna you know their way to to value themselves will be to knock down the other guy and women are not blind

they're aware of that so come on practice which devalues the whole [ __ ] thing because one thing with women is that they're exposed they're not educated but they're exposed and there's still an inner intelligent that that senses you know so they've recently guys who certainly one is talking the other one is interrupting

him and so on so the simple fact that a man can powerfully introduce their friend sub communicates a lot of security sub communicates also a lot of importance because all the important people are around important people and creates an amazing contrast compared to the guys that talk over each other and start to compare to to to to fight over

her plus also speak of the mystery method all the basic attraction switches a protector of loved ones a leader of mana when the woman can witness that the guy starts to dis his friend in front of him what kind of a protector of loved ones would that be that's the right man that the moment

she's not around right you get you you get it guys and I don't write about and and what kind of a leader of men that would be so my experience with rush has been that the introduction feels super good yes it changes the energy all around and then gradually the focus goes even more on him for not only having a

friends like that around but also for being a man of that caliber and I like also simple things sometimes you go back to the basics uh it's usually the more achieved accomplished people that will introduce first and last name yeah uh it's a common practice Hollywood the people are a bit more achieved they go this is

Ben's Kelvin they don't go as my friends Vince so make it a habit for you that's basic that's non pickup but that's a great plus reduce yourself first and last name and often times again it creates because only sub communication you know what at least the way I operate with my game I drop of the gate I create

responses based on duplicating what is found only when those responses are there so it's a form of reverse engineering so I notice okay when people try hard to qualify when there's a celebrity and everybody wants to be around them and prove themselves what comes before that on the side of the other person of course they are a

celebrity but at the same time it's all sub communication so a super quick announcement there's a chopper behind me I hope it's not distracting the coal the coal will be briefed up and we have so much coming up this one I work a little bit backward at the end of the month you if you're an

insider have been informed of it already general public it has not been voiced yet we're doing something very exclusive through eg SLR a more exclusive VIP opportunity of the G SLR with the four best I keep it at this for now but heads up and if you're an insider you know it's big it's as big as forbidden

teaching it's a longer event which involves more people uh the week prior to that the week of the for Tina we are doing our monthly for those who have the membership and drawn all of our monthly events with Russian I and that one will be in San Jose and it will be focused on

the topic that you guys all won and have been asking for ever and that the topic that no one has mastered like a rush so very thrilled to be there as well myself which will be managing multiple women it's called concubine Krishna because Krishna had a thousand concubines and you would enlighten and empower them not

like a harem or anything like that so for that if you have membership heads up if not you'll hear about it and this coming up weekend ax one of the core of all my models call it of module originally was called the multi-dimensional male model but now since we're helping women as well as

we're going beyond pick up I renamed it the multi-dimensional human module there's a tendency for people to be uni-dimensional which is like a car with just one tire yeah there's also a lot of confusion around the different qualities that you want to balance like the four elements many are confused they don't really know

how far they don't have a reference so they quickly become too harsh or they hear the word be authentic and they become a little too week so what I will address is hard to access existing resources within you to be more alpha decisive dominant authentic genuine real and while the entertaining fun touch of

craziness just spiked it up as well as very wise very enriching very enlightening a ticket a informative I'm going to say then each one has a delivery mode which helps you shift quick question gentleman attraction which one do you think a little shocked wild yeah so that attracts Jia City you stay in that mode it becomes too much

so then comfort authentic oh wow the guy's real and then uh what did you take it from there well many guys they distill authentic when they they want to escalate or close there you go two more alpha dominant I tell you what you know you're fun I don't know you wisdom I don't know you

it's true it's why you're fun but I don't know you so you learn how to balance those and when to tap into which mode and you can manage your entire life with that because anything you go ask their money your career and so on if you go only one mode you know you're gonna

drive yourself crazy example there are people who hold on to their money hold on to your money saving is smart but they create a block then they have people who are careless and never pay attention to it these people who continues to make more but never really enjoy it so you gotta learn how to

balance those four four elements I'm some events will be up to $1,500 though the world the one I referred to last one of the month uh I also you know like to create motion so for this one this Saturday it's five hours streaming in person you name it I went for different model it's forty at 40 yeah 40 at forty

and we're getting very close to that so this is your call for it forty at forty i total gift also we just had Easter so you know we may raise it to 50 but it's going to be about a certain amount that will decide when we shut it down so we take one last question

and then I work with nice real quick then the other is your DSL again when you say that in September uh it is produced by the GSL are there is the GSR in September but what I'm talking about is just a lot we putting together a very exclusive event on the 21st 22nd and

23rd and we are duplicating a little bit stopping but the format is similar to what we had done when we had a mention it was called the forbidden teaching and we took ten guys for one weekend in the mansion and we're going to top we were going to touch on the four main topics

of life and there will be forensic experts Arash myself plus two other experts and that's coming on the 21st but you you will hear about it within 48 hours okay for the cider chicken check in with our rush me uh I almost gave it away by saying Frank white and Brad Casella oh [ __ ] I gave you a completely

so taking about any one of us last question always keep it at this for tonight well water I can maybe I could like a let me let me ask you something like we're huge fans on qualification some qualifications that I use when you say this is a pretty good one to say I'll

say to her so what are your three best qualities is that a good qualifier right there or who you invite who do you admire in life or what are your best qualities those are good qualification questions would you say yes but that's not the okay you're right and you could probably come up with a million

qualification questions however right it's not the question that not qualified okay this is a lot it's a yes but there's one that it's the timing for qualification it's timing okay what does that mean what about I've observed of course everything actually I've observed actually first say I've made the mistake of okay and then say then I've observed because

you know goes with a mistake or a lesson so I've observed that a person will prematurely look at her and say so Diaz her three best qualities and that's a good question to ask at the right time not at the wrong time so when do you think would be after anything it's better okay yeah I get it that's just

the word so tell me tell me how like what's happening what are you feeling what's give us an example of when you should ask her a question like well you know what I simply what is the best or what do you admire in life that's a good on either of those questions but usually like

after the Boyd go to board a girl and then girl the boy and then up there there's a little awkward silence man right there would be a good time to ask for a good qualification to bring into the picture yes I understand that wait what was that who I talked to the first I didn't hear it is Ryan Martin

right so here's what happened so you the person here is qualification right and we hear it's when the girl detected to the guy right after the goes to judgment correct quick but it's here give this everybody this is I apply it and it's lethal at this point she says something or I've been talking she's been

listening or something I've been lost in the moment and suddenly after she's given me enough indications that she wants to be with me right and I refused the first one I refused the second I refused I don't buy it that's great yeah I know I got time to deal yeah okay I'm sure you got that - okay did it hurt

whatever but not like that ruse but anyways I've now made her work for it and I could tell she likes me now I have to like her so in the middle of talking to her or she's saying something I stop and I go you know what you're different than I thought what do you mean what

you're different look when I first showed up let me tell you what I saw a super pretty girl with black hair that now I'm not into girls back you would think otherwise because three out of my four girlfriends have black hair yeah four girlfriends yes we'll talk about that later but the point I'm

making is it's not like black hair I just have to make others like her I'm now attracted to blonds so of course when I saw you I was like that there's a very pretty girl who could probably be a good friend of mine's out of that and I'm sure we could be friends but here is

one thing and then your impression was was it was like okay whatever to be honest with you but now so we've been talking I got to tell you there's something more so I'm curious this is a question is imported actually who do you admire in life what do you get these ideas from we're here your

values was there did you go up and miring like a family member or a teacher or is it a book that you read you see son yeah end of story now guys come on look at that goddamn [ __ ] timing and delivery of it and we're going over the phone right now on a [ __ ] podcast

imagine the beautiful girl sitting in front of me hearing that she raps into that and then she'll go and say well you okay everybody get it but great question because this is a great podcast tonight guys great question yeah I'm gonna get them dandy more more these are great these are great I want to bring up a

point critical point which is critical mass give you an example anyone with a cell phone and a decent camera function on the cell phone can take a picture there are many songs that it wouldn't take very long before you can play them a little bit if you pick up an instrument oh it wouldn't take very long

for someone to be able to understand the basic concept of playing basketball right but it's always the one pro photographer that it was the same camera with the same caption but why there's something extra in it yeah or the me the musician you know there's many songs that have been karaoke 2,000 times or

played by cover bands ten thousands of time but there's nothing like your original you know it grabs your guts you're all of you so it's the little nuances around that you accumulate through time that's why continuous education will bring you to that place of critical mass and what do I mean is critical mass to

me real attraction is simple it's about creating the most significant contrast with what they were exposed to prior yeah and when you reach that place of critical mass then everything flips around and everything that was a concern is no longer a concern you don't need to even think about qualification because they qualify themselves you don't need

to think about those things anymore comes a time when the pro player of a guitar doesn't think I let me play a C and a D the fingers just [ __ ] follow and then somebody said oh I was here yeah maybe I don't know I just play yeah so here are two little distinctions that

will help you with qualification they are not in it but they are part of it okay the first one I always love to do the preamp because overall the attention span of people who see it when we're teaching or performing you know it is very limited all of us we don't apply ourselves so we cannot rely on that so

to create a sense of okay give me a little more I demand a little bit more so often I may say now ready question of the day and you notice how emphasize this you cannot see my body language but at the end I will fold my arms not in a way where I'm clothes more like I'm the

authority where do you wear is that the boss asking the employer question yeah so my experience has been that sometimes that throws the same question without the preamp and they don't apply themselves as much and then it's not even so much the question itself is just that that preamp that oh okay about a

better or saying but before you answer that will say a lot about you yeah so that's one distinction make sure that that you boost and demand command more attention apply yourself basically the message would be apply yourself now gap of course it's from the core at the core you constantly refine almost like you cleaning a pot and it's

cleaner but there's still some at the bottom clean clean clean constantly to go deeper into pure place of not having to prove or not trying to impress and we have so grown up into that and it's still inclined animal species you know them male those usual thing that's more often than we know it we're still

minimally but too much still coming from a place of trying to impress approve and there it doesn't matter what you do it's always come across tends to come across the wrong way the like and one is to also know that you cannot demand from people more than they're capable to give at the time so as much as we are

qualifying we don't want to make it as difficult as the bar exam or as difficult as they make it in school you you want to help a little bit okay so watch half f have three renditions get some are ready you go give me one reason why should talk to you right now but the

majority will go I don't know and then it's kind of productive because now you did impact but what you created was a state of not really knowing which makes them more vulnerable you still can work with that but if you don't have the chops to work with that then you crystal confusion and confusion leads to a

awkwardness okay yep so sometimes you help a little bit and you go if you were to tell me one little thing about you and some they need a little example so sometimes just the same way you could take a test where they wait for you to write a long answer you give in like a

WoW one one paragraph to answer one where one correct answer is respected or one answer and one where you give the answers choice of X or ABC so my favorite quality in question i amp it up from the place or I don't know you yeah how can I know who you are so show me impress me yeah

she has to impress me and and then I pay attention also because oftentimes what [ __ ] of the qualification is that if she didn't respond that well many guys loop it and take it back to purse taking it personally and think that it didn't work and that ruins the qualification yeah the real qualification would be

like if she goes oh wow that's impressive and you tease her and that's when I usually escalate that come in and all was very impressive you cracked me up and I hold the hand at that moment because she like Barrett so I won't care interesting now now here is the question the mother of all question we're gonna

figure you up ladies and then I say okay maybe give me a little drumroll and them and now III ask one question and I divide it into three answers yeah shopping totally compulsive pre-plan or random which one or you go swimming pool your own swimming pool in your backyard it's free you go for Olympic you go for

something crazy shape it like a star or a heart or you know kind of the resort type of pool which one and then sometimes to qualify also when they start to answer you shut them up your oh wait I forgot to mention it's a very important question and you make them laugh okay and the real qualification is

okay is her answer enriching you are you learning something are you laughing are you surprised because you never thought of it that way cap is it shocking so that's when you pay attention that's how they qualify but if it's an average standard boring and they don't qualify so start to make them feel that you go oh my god I'd love

to listen to hours more of that and the real qualification also is that delivery that's above average that automatically on one hand triggers the conditioned response when else did they witness that well whenever something was happening significant and so because only people who think of themselves that way dare to talk that way and on the other hand it's

enriching and its superior so it's appealing automatically naturally they will start to invest think that my place to end it tonight more often with us for all those events you know it's a powerful month because that's entering the second quarter of the year already okay so keep that in mind so in the

second quarter which means after that half a year so don't be like those fools who only check in once a year for New Year's reboot decide we're with you all the [ __ ] way and we're at it's so strong that if you were to hear and I'm from now we're going to have a podcast

and you asked is the same question and you pay attention you might be a [ __ ] it was just one hour but I can tell by their answer that they've already grown so keep coming back or start with us thank you I hope you my brother so much fun yeah thank you Brian and thank you

my brother or Raja farm of the [ __ ] the bazaar thank you guys okay she got shoot all right take five I got Bala I got [Music]