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This is the whole problem that everyone makes. Anytime we have a problem, the first thing that we do is we try to jump to a solution. If I'm unhappy in life, I need to make more money. If I'm struggling with dating, I need to be sexier. It's a concept that I call toxic

fuel, and that will never work. Because if I give you a glass of water, and then I piss in it, and then I add sugar, it doesn't remove the piss. Because no amount of building something good will remove something bad. In order to change behavior, what you need to do is save trees.

Dr. K is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist and former monk specializing in modern mental health, blending neuroscience with real-life wisdom to help millions of people unlock their true potential. There's a loneliness epidemic, social anxiety is increasing, and falling in love seems harder. But we have all the answers. The problem is that everyone is doing the wrong things now. First of

all, talking about our problems can absolutely make things worse, because there's a particular way we have to talk, but we're not taught how to do that. The second thing is that we are struggling to fall in love, and that's actually because we're exhausting our dopamine through things like devices. Yeah, people don't realize. And then the

rise in social anxiety is because everyone is texting. So the parts of our brain that reassure us in social situations are starting to rust. So there are core things that we have to start doing. So the first is that Dr. K, why don't people achieve their goals? Now, this is really interesting. There

are two kinds of people in life. There are people who like, I'm going to advance towards my goals, and then there are the rest of us who are like, you know, I'm trying to be like these people who are productive, but I'm going to do nothing. And trauma is the big difference here.