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Fear Of Loss: The Hidden Trauma That Ruins Your Relationships

Peter Crone · 1,902 words · 10 min read · EN-ORIG

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by asking you about the hardest thing you've gone through in your life and how you worked to overcome it and perhaps how it informed your work now. >> For sure. Uh I don't know trying to categorize the hardest thing. There's been a few. I think we all by virtue of being here in this paradigm, this

dimension of suffering. We all go through our forms of adversity. I I mean early on was probably my mom dying was probably the hardest thing when I was seven cuz I don't know even if now I would fully comprehend it. Certainly I couldn't as a seven-year-old. Um and then 10 years later my dad goes to work

and he never comes back cuz he dies. So now I'm 17 and orphan. So I'd say they were probably quite at the top of the list of hardest things. >> Yeah. Um, but then I think ironically it was like I don't know 10 years later, 11 years later when I'd sort of fallen in

love as best as I comprehended love at that ripe old age of 28 that I probably reconciled those two previous hardest things because unbeknownst to me as we all do I was living in the trauma of those events which in this case manifested as the fear of loss and we were under the

impression that when you know I finally get my body fat that percentage what I want. You know, my six-pack abs are showing, my ass is tight, you know, I've got a good tent. That's when I'm going to be like my best. But guess what? A second later, you're a different person. So, I think with regards to

understanding the paradigm, this dimension of being human, that what we call loss, which is really the the transition of form is constant. It's inbuilt. And so that's the more philosophical but also profound enlightened perspective is like okay none of us are going to be free of the experience of loss but if we

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can perhaps reframe it in a way that it's inevitable unavoidable and an intrinsic part of life not just as a way of helping us recognize what's really profoundly important to us but also I think on the flip side to reinforce the the the beauty of being alive, right? Um, definitely nuance. I mean, I tend to

get really philosophical, as you know. I love that intro. I've never heard what have you said, the philosopher king or the new moniker. But anyway, so um I can wax lyrical about it, but I also want to be very like pragmatic and and literal, which is time to me is illusory, right? So I think what happens with all

emotions is as humans we tend to adapt it in a way that from childhood usually kids are to be seen and not heard as a general kind of container for what children are to parents which is often times a pain in the ass right so you know what happens is we become conditioned to perhaps not fully express

my experience when I work with people is if you're given a safe enough arena to fully express then whatever the emotion is you know anger sadness grief, frustration, it's instantaneously reconciled. >> Does that make sense? It's almost like what I call emotional indigestion, right? Is what most people are experiencing. >> But express it in the outward emotion

and whatever that feels like. Tears or yelling or running through the woods naked or whatever. >> Yeah. Whatever it is, because typically it's sort of like the mental equivalent of digestion. All of all of that that sort of you know the millure of all of the things that humans fear. >> Mhm. >> Uh creates suppression.

>> Yeah. >> So for me grief if you understand it it's really on the continuum of love. Right. So it's kind of beautiful because really it's it's perhaps love that has yet to be expressed. >> Yeah. >> And that's often sort of very closely correlated to regret. Right. Because someone might I don't know your story.

you've shared a little bit kindly but you know with a partner or a parent you know to what degree did we feel what I was just speaking to earlier that we didn't maximize the time that we had here the what I was speaking to the the sort of transitory fragility of what it is to be human and

is there a form of grief because god I just I wish I'd told my wife my husband my dad my mom how much they meant to me and how much I love them and I didn't you know >> it sort of becomes like the >> the heroine of of How can I feel better?

How can I feel better? Or how can I hold on to the [ __ ] that wasn't serving me? >> Yes. Or let go of it if it wasn't serving >> or hold on to the relief on the other side of it. From what I hear you're saying. Yeah. So, I think, you know, if

I were to boil it down to very simple terms and even just use one word, it's safety, >> right? To me, that's the primordial necessity in any relationship. And it manifests in different ways. Like safety to a woman is a different experience in body, mind, and heart than it is for the masculine. Right? So, but when we're

holding on to things, if you look at it and really really look at it like ultimately any holding is because of fear. >> Mhm. >> What is fear? The antithesis of feeling safe. You know, definitely have fallen short in many relationships where I try to prove myself and my worth and be good

enough for a girl. And no, it's all been there. you know this is perhaps the last >> coming out on the other side hopefully I mean you know >> yeah it is very liberating so um >> yes trust it is trust by definition is future based as a conversation right when I work with a lot of athletes pro

athletes which you know I do or have and will um one of my favorite lines to them I say is if you're okay with every outcome I'm talking to a baseball player you're going to strike out we lose a game talking to a golfer or you're going to miss the cut. You know, talking to an

Olympic athlete, you don't make the trials, you don't get medals, whoever it is I'm talking to, if you're okay with every outcome, you've got nothing to fear. So, that's a kind of an inquiry and an invitation to understand that most people aren't okay with every outcome. Therefore, they have something to fear. Therefore, trust can't live in that

environment. You know, you want to hopefully have a good friend, a confidant, a lover, a parent, a sibling who really cares about you and can hold a container for you to share whatever is there. Because typically in the sharing, like I said earlier, if you really express fully, then it it reconciles itself.

>> It's I make the distinction between feelings and emotions. Feelings are part of being a sentient being. They're very instantaneous. They're responsive. They're in present time. But when we don't have our feelings in the moment, it's it's unreconciled. There's a little bit of accumulation. Even if we express ourselves 95%. That 5% will then become

sticky. And then that will lead to the next part of a very similar encounter where we don't express ourselves again and now it's 15%. And then before you know it, in a week or 3 weeks or a month, you have an explosion which is not really appropriate to the event, but it's because of the unexpressed

feelings. Imagine that it was a sort of three-sided cinema that was open. You'd never see the film because it's just sort of out there in infinitely. >> And so to me, the body represents the wall and the screen because otherwise we wouldn't have the feeling, right? So it's the the tapestry, the canvas upon

which you know the old expression of the body keeps score. >> So it it all goes there. Um and that's where we get to feel like the tension in our solar plexus, our stomach, the headache, you know, the change of posture, the dryness of a mouth, you know, the shaking of a hand, the sweats

when people are doing public speaking. You know, this is where we get to see how am I relating to life, which is why the body's so beautiful. So, it's like a sticky goo. If you if anyone does tongue scraping, you know, without getting into anything that people scrape, you see like that coating, right? That coating

is what we call armor. sort of white sticky. It can almost look like a little bit of a drier version of mucus or whatever. But in the body that becomes, you know, the obstacle to otherwise natural flow, whether it's digestion at the bigger gross level or the subtler level, the channels in our mind, the

circulatory system, our lymph, all of that. >> Yeah. >> And so when things aren't flowing properly, you create disease. So why I'm bringing that up as a coralate to the fact that when we don't proc process emotions properly, we get this sticky unexpressed version of ourselves. >> And so it still comes down to our

ability to process, digest, metabolize, express. And then ultimately, you know, again, discard, >> right? For people who aren't letting go of their waste products, they're going to get sick. >> If people aren't letting go of their waste emotions, they're also going to get sick, right? There's a beautiful correlation when you understand that the physical, the

manifest is super related to what's going on also at the subtle body, which is why I love the term disease, right? When people are in a state of disease, meaning they're not at peace. They're not at peace. They don't feel safe. They're in a state of fear. It's not a great piece of

equipment for loving life and accessing potential >> because you're just trying to mitigate and offset, you know, past trials and tribulations, which means typically you are maybe getting the better version of them, but you're still, you know, what you resist persists. So people are like, why the hell do I keep attracting the

same kind of person? Well, you know, you're the consistent theme with the same programming. So um with regards to the average athlete at home to your question my quote that you've already referenced is the best place to start the life will present you with people and circumstances to reveal where you're not free. So the question is where do I not

feel free? You know I'm not talking to my husband about something that really bothers me. I'm not addressing something with my kids. I am lying to my boss. I'm you know don't have a good relationship with my mom. Like where have where am I lo where have I lost freedom?