Video by awakeningwithbrian

A silent child is not a good child. It's not more well-behaved. It's a traumatized child. Silence is not peace. It's a nervous system shutting down because that child is terrified of expressing its feelings. That child learned very early that if I speak, I get punished. If I cry, nobody comes for me. If I have needs, I will lose love. So they stay quiet. They stay small.

They become easy to raise while their pain grows louder and louder inside. And as an adult, you still silence yourself. You avoid conflict because it makes your body shake. You say it's fine even when you're hurting. You don't ask for help because you don't want to be a burden. In relationships, you pick partners that talk over you. You tolerate being misunderstood

because it's familiar. You disconnect from your needs just to keep the peace. Not because you're weak, but because your body still thinks silence keeps you safe. And I was that silent child, so I know this very well. And healing starts the moment you break that silence and give your voice back to the child inside that never got to use it.